I wrote a post once called “No Fantasy in Sex”. The post has received 187 views and 13 comments. My next most popular post has about 30 views and one or two comments. So what is it that got everyone so keen to put their 2 cents worth in ? The controversy about if masturbation is a sin and if having a fantasy sex life is ok or not.
My view on it is like this; The devil is not the arch enemy of God. God has defeated the devil and has enough power to annihilate him without raising a sweat. The devil is our sparing partner. The devil does not attack God, he undermines God’s work in us. God hopes that we will run to Him for protection and so realize His worth.
The battle ground for this spiritual war is in our minds but the devil does not mount an all out frontal attack (although it may seem like it sometimes), he is crafty. The gates to the battle ground are our eyes and our ears. What goes through those gates determines the strength he has to fight the war.
If you are watching porn and fantasizing about your co-workers, the devil has plenty to work with. If you consume God’s word and protect your eye and ear gate your defense will be good , the devil will probably pretty much leave you alone and head onto an easier target (and there are plenty out there).
A cornerstone of God’s work is the family unit. When a man and a woman get married they ‘become one’ in the eyes of God. The traits of God that were imparted to men and the traits of God that were imparted to women are joined. When a couple is blessed with children that is when the generational impartation of the very being of God begins. The relationship a husband and wife have with each other and their children is the most effective text book for a child to learn about God from.
For this very reason, the devil is there, testing the strength of people’s defenses. When he finds a hole or notices that someone is holding the door wide open for him, he goes to work.
I watched an Islamic talk show on TV the other day. A prominent Muslim personality was discussing with a live audience what was sinful. They were discussing the example of slipping someone money to get better service. Apparently, if you give money to get better service, and in the process don’t inconvenience someone else and are only paying for something that is your right, you are not sinning BUT the person who accepts the money is sinning and the money becomes Haram (forbidden).
To me Protestant or Catholic, Old Testament or New, Muslim, Jew or otherwise, there is no need to nit pick about this. Even from a secular point of view, look what pornography and infidelity is doing to our race. We are tearing our race apart because we can’t contain the animalistic urges that taunt us all.
A question I have asked a lot of teens I have ministered to is “ If your life was a DVD, every moment, every though, how would you feel if we played it for all of your friends and family ? ”. Nearly all of them dreaded the thought. My response is “ Put it on !! You will see that I have been down there with the lowest of the low and yet His love us plucked me from eternal damnation.”
I have a file on my computer addressed to my daughters. It tells them how much I love them and that if anything happens to me, I want them to have my computer. On it are all my devotions, correspondence, pictures and so on. I believe that they could really get to know me from what I write, read and watch. Could you do that ? What would they find on your computer ? Is that who you are ? Who you want to be ? You may think what you do in private or think about in your head is inconsequential but if you are losing the battle in your mind, you are losing the battle.
God loves you and he is with you 24/7. Don’t waste His Grace !
God Bless You
When Mother Teresa accepted her Nobel Peace prize, someone asked her “ What can we do to help with world peace ?” She responded “ Go home and love your family.”